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Trying too Hard to Please | ||
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A couple of weeks ago, I decided I wanted to have a small get together of about 5 or 6 people. The idea was to have a tea party, Alice in Wonderland themed. Socialize, have a good time, and then go home. Somehow this original idea turned into a huge party with about 17 people attending in total (25 were invited), a tea party and BBQ, and then a trip to the other side of the city to hit the beach for a few hours.
My attempt to try to include everyone, to not “say no”, be accommodating of requests for transportation and coordinate how people would get from one place to another stemmed from my need to please everyone. We all had a good time, of course. But something that a loved one said to me out of concern was that maybe I was trying too hard to keep everyone happy irrespective of whether or not I would be overwhelmed and burnt out from doing it.
So even though I tried my best:
- I kept getting requests to invite people I didn’t really know well, and I think the party would have been too big. So I said no, and ended up getting whiplash because of that.
- I bought food the day before. Ended up spending $80 more than I meant to. Only got back about $20 compensation from my guests (it was either bring food, or bring $5). I was afraid to ask for more money so that I wouldn’t deter guests from attending.
- The last minute shopping left me very exhausted and burnt out, luckily I got enough sleep the night before.
- Forgot to invite a few friends, so much for trying to include!
What went well:
- Everyone that came had a good time. Awkward at first, but as soon as people were talking and enjoying food it ended up well.
- A few showed up in costume for Alice in Wonderland
- My boyfriend, his sister and her friend came to help me with setup and cleanup. Which was tremendous and I couldn’t thank them enough for. It wouldn’t have gone smoothly without it.
- Everyone had so much fun playing frisbee, volleyball, and swimming in super cold water!
I felt this postcard sent into postsecret.com describes what I should be doing well:
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Food Poisoning | ||
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… that’s what I had before my exam. Well, I was planning to finish reviewing my last bit of material but with the vomiting and violent stomach cramps I was confined to my bed.
I was seriously considering deferring the exam. I had a valid medical reason, but I realized that if I asked for a deferral, I would have to write the exam in December instead. And also pay $70.
I had to travel by subway downtown to write the exam, and that was excruciating. I think once I sat down, had something to eat, and wrote my exam I did well. I’m glad I didn’t defer it in the end. That would have so much trouble.
I’ve been eating soups all day, and my stomach is definitely recovering. I hate a whole mango just now.
First the flu for two weeks, then food poisoning. I promise a positive blog post soon. I’m just glad to be done my exam.